I was twelve when my Mom talked to
me about sex. She explained where babies came from and told me not to do it
before I got married.
Sex was still considered a taboo
topic in the 90's. Parents didn't feel the need to explain to their children
why they should abstain from sex until they got married.
Today, we live in a society that
glorifies sex; from the television shows and music videos we watch to the
billboards we see at every street corner.
With sex being thrown in our faces,
so many are ignoring what their parents told them and experimenting with 6, 7
or 8 partners.
There’s the never ending debate on
whether it’s really beneficial to abstain from sex until marriage.
Here are the two major reasons why
people don't wait:
1) Experience - Who really
wants to be a rookie on their wedding night?
2) Peer Pressure - Children and
teens are being pressured from their peers to do it.
Here are some of the disadvantages
of having sex before marriage:
1) Partner comparison – When
you finally tie the knot with the love of your life, you’re most likely going
to compare them to your previous partners.
2) Abortions – So many females
end up aborting their babies out of fear of getting kicked out of their home.
What they don’t realize is that they’ll have to live with the repercussions of
that decision for the rest of their life.
3) Babies born out of wedlock –
A lot of the times, babies born out of wedlock don’t get the opportunity to
grow up with both parents under the same roof. Most of the time, these Mother’s
end up raising their child(ren) on their own.
4) Sexually Transmitted Diseases
(STD’s) – By not practicing safe sex, you increase your risk of getting an STD.
Here are two major reasons why you
should save yourself for marriage:
1) God
created sex for married couples only - Sex is to be experienced between a
husband and wife to express their love towards one another and for the purpose
of procreation.
2) No partner comparison – If
you and your spouse both save yourselves for marriage, you will have no one to
compare your partner to. No comparison = No disappointments.
As a Christian, I still believe that
sex should be saved for the person you marry. I also plan on encouraging my
children to save themselves for marriage. The one thing I will do differently from my parents is to explain why it's important to wait. From there, I can only hope that my children will take my advice and learn from my experiences.
If you had sex before marriage,
would you make the same decision again or would you have waited?
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