Know Your Boundaries

Growing up, you had a ton of friends of the opposite sex. Then you met Mr./Mrs. Right. Not long after the wedding, your spouse tells you they aren't comfortable with you keeping these friends. 

Before you know it, you’re screening your friends calls and ignoring their text messages. When you finally build up the courage, you tell them that you can no longer be friends without an explanation.

This type of scenario happens way too often. It could be that your spouse had an unresolved issue with one of your friends. It could be that they have a trust issue. Or maybe they're just the jealous type.

I personally don’t see the problem with keeping friends of the opposite sex after getting married. If they were your friends before you tied the knot, what’s the problem with keeping them as friends after you get married?

This is one of those things that should be discussed while dating/courting. Why not create a list of boundaries that you both can agree on and adhere to.

Here are my suggestions:

1 Introduce your significant other to your friends.

2 Agree on when it’s appropriate/not appropriate to communicate with your friends (i.e. no phone calls after a certain time).

3 Limit your alone time with your friends. Make it a group outing instead by inviting other friends along.

4 Make sure your friends know that if they disrespect your significant other, they in turn have disrespected you.

What are your thoughts on keeping friends of the opposite sex after getting married?

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