About that birth plan...

It’s hard to believe that tomorrow will mark six months since I was in the hospital anticipating Zendaya’s arrival.

I went in with all these ideas about how my labour and delivery would go. Being the organized woman that I am, I had put together a birth plan.

I remember giving my birth plan to one of the nurses. She looked at me, smirked and started reading it.

I was hoping for my water to break naturally. There was a possibility that they would have to break it the following morning because my contractions were only 45 minutes apart on the eve of Zendaya’s birth.

I was determined that I wasn’t going to get the epidural even though I have zero tolerance for pain.

I was praying that I wouldn't have to have a c-section because I didn’t want them to cut me open and deal with the pain for six weeks or more.

I wanted to cut the umbilical cord.

I wanted to hold Zendaya immediately after delivery.

I also wanted to see the placenta before it was discarded.

These were only a few of the things listed on my birth plan.

After the nurse finished reading it, she looked at me and laughed. She told me that most times, what women want to happen during their labour and delivery doesn’t happen. She went on to say that I should go in with an open mind to avoid disappointment.

It was my turn to laugh.

She clearly didn’t know me. I’m all about being in control and I was definitely going to be in control of this situation. 

Fast forward nine hours.

The next morning, my OB had to break my water.

After four hours of enduring the pain, I asked the nurse how fast could she get me the epidural.

Due to some complications with Zendaya’s birth, I didn’t get to cut the umbilical cord nor did I get to hold her or see until ten minutes after her delivery.

I only got to see a picture of the placenta.

The only thing I was able to tick off my birth plan was not having a c-section.

 My nurse was right. Creating a birth plan is great but you definitely have to go in with an open mind. Never again will I create another. 

Lesson learned.

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